I Was Ratioed: Here's What I Learned

Arsenal Member,

First, let’s get the terminology out of the way in case you aren’t familiar with what it means to be “ratioed.”

Ratioed is when you make a Tweet and it gets more Quote Retweets and Comments than Likes and Retweets.

Here’s the Tweet that was ratioed:

Can we take a moment to acknowledge that, out of all my Tweets to offend the “tolerant” Left, that is the one that gets their attention.

Because let me tell you, I have said some controversial things in my Tweeting days. Of course, that’s why you joined my newsletter — so you’d get the deep dives on my controversial takes.

And that’s exactly what this email is about.

Now, I want to make it clear, there’s no hidden meaning in this Tweet. The point I made is legitimately that I believe women should dress like women.

Alright, now that the “nuance” is out of the way, let’s talk about what I learned.

I Do Not Recommend It

I want you to know something. I don’t write Tweets with the outright intention of offending people. I will write Tweets I know will offend someone, but that isn’t the reason why I write the Tweets.

I write them because you never know who needs to hear it.

But why don’t I recommend getting ratioed?

Because 99% of the comments and quotes were insults and threats. Truth is, I don’t mind the insults. I find them hilarious. But, I am confident in myself and my appearance because I learned how to embrace my masculine energy (which I teach in coaching).

That being said, if this happened even a year ago, I wouldn’t have been able to read half of what was said without either taking offense or being hurt by it.

Now, I just read them over and laugh.

But I understand others would respond how I would have responded. Which is why I don’t recommend it. Because it absolutely has the potential to drain you and ruin your day, or even week, if you let it.

It Was Great For Engagement

So far, it’s gotten over 2 million impressions (2 million people saw the Tweet) and over 7,800 quotes and comments. Sure, those numbers don’t represent anything good, but I’m sure this will work out to my advantage on the Twitter algorithms.

And, lo and behold, I’ve gained over 100 new followers because of it!

For me to think how any of those new 100 followers may change their life and quit porn because of my Tweets, articles, and Quit Porn Masterclass, that blows me away.

The only trade-off is, those angry feminists have been annoying me in the comments of my other posts. The fact that Twitter has been so obsessed with me lately is hilarious. It’s crazy to think of how many people went and took screenshots of my profile photo and my bio to quote the Tweet with as some kind of insult.

They probably won’t remember to delete the photos. Which is a physical manifestation of how I lived rent-free in so many people’s minds for who knows how long.

Usually, I don’t argue with people in the comments, but I did with some of those people just for fun. Why? Because it wasn’t affecting my energy negatively. It didn’t drain me or anything. So I just went at it.

Which leads me to the biggest point I want to make, and that has to do with protecting your own mental energy from these kinds of people.

You Must Protect Your Mental Energy — Online and Offline

Protecting your energy online ought to be easy enough, but so many people refer to social media as “toxic” and that it does more harm than good.

If you’ve listened to any of my earlier podcast episodes, you’d know just how highly I view Twitter and how appreciative I am of it. Why? Because of all the amazing people I’ve met through it, and all the life-changing things I’ve learned from people on it, too.

I use social media — strictly Twitter — as a tool, and I view it as one big group chat with all of my friends.

But when you get ratioed, or have a bunch of negative comments come in, the honest-to-God best thing to do is block them.

Don’t engage with negative people. Don’t get in debates in comment sections. Don’t worry about proving anything to anyone.

Honestly, if I see comments from anyone with pronouns in their bio, a mask on in their profile photo, any kind of leftist political affiliation, or anime profile photos, there’s a GREAT chance I won’t engage and will just block them instead.

Why?

Because 99% of the time, people who have those criteria on their profile are just looking to cause trouble, and my energy is more important than engaging with them.

If you can protect your energy online, you can do so in person.

That’s why setting boundaries are so important. It makes it clear to people that there are lines you will not cross and will not allow other people to drag you behind.

Many people don’t let setting up boundaries because they don’t want them to come in the way of their relationships.

Truth is, if those boundaries are coming in the way of a relationship, there’s a great chance said relationship isn’t worth your time or your investment.

You can absolutely be friends with people that have codes you disagree with. You just have to make it clear there are certain things you don’t want to discuss with them because you know it will become an argument.

If you are having a hard time setting up these boundaries, you need to work on building your own confidence and learn how to feel your own energy.

If those are things you struggle with, coaching is for you, because those are two things I focus on with clients in coaching.

Interested in coaching? Follow this link here (like, click the word “here” lol) to apply for coaching.

Wrapping Up:

Don’t let the mob intimidate you. Getting ratioed wasn’t my first ratio with the SJW mob so I was chill about it this time. First time the mob struck last year, not so much, but that’s a story for a different time.

Remember that YOU are your own top priority, and if something impedes on your energy and affects you, your mood, and your day, then you need to distance yourself from it and build the mental fortification necessary to ensure it doesn’t mess with you.

All that and more when you get coaching.

Cheers,

— KD